In her New York Times Bestseller, The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin writes, “What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”
For many – maybe most – people happiness is something that they view as coming in bursts connected with something enjoyable they do or experience. For example, you overhear a coworker say, “I’m going on vacation to the Bahamas next week – Yeah, it’s going to be great.”
What is your co-worker expecting?
They’re expecting to be happy as a result of something they do or experience.
Then, it all goes to pieces…and their “happiness” begins to plunge dramatically when their flight is delayed a half-hour, there is a screaming child on the flight, and when they land, the car rental agency can’t find their booking right away.
This chain of disappointments sets in motion a fog of unhappiness that permeates the entire vacation.
What’s the solution? Should no one ever take a vacation?
No, vacations are good things.
But if you’re dependent upon the high of a vacation, a concert, or even a good meal out with friends to pull you happily through to the next emotional sugar high, you’re bound for disappointment.
Gretchen Rubin is correct.
“What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”
Robin Sharma, Canadian author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferarri, says it like this:
“Your days are your life in miniature. As you live your hours, so you create your years.”
Let’s think about it this way…
David, King of ancient Israel from 1000-962 BC, wrote:
‘Teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.”
It’s what you do in your days that really matters. The activities and thoughts that make up your days are the activities and thoughts that define your life. King David understood a few things:
What’s the point?
Whether it’s taking the time each day to write in a journal, take a walk, or play a game of catch with your little boy, do those things each day that inspire you, relax you, and help you be happy. Don’t wait to be happy until the “right moment” or that “special event.” Your happiness – at least in part – depends on how you use the time you have each day.
If you read each day, you’re living a life of learning.
If you sing each day, you’re living a life of song.
If you exercise each day, you’re living a life of fitness.
If you focus your mind on the good each day, you’re living a life of positivity.
If you find someone to help each day, you’re living a life of valuable service to others.
Until next time, have a happy day.
* I cannot recommend every artist, author, or everything written in every book I mention in my blog. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, and where a person or book is right or makes a good point, I will give credit where credit is due.